You are born fearless, without presumptions, without classifications, without realization of self and stuffs. Then the programming begins. Your family starts programing you by giving you a tag name, teach you your habits, costumes, fears, insecurities, teach you what is beauty and what is dark, teach you presumptions, predispositions and tendencies. So you grow up feeling that you are in a battle zone, in a grinding lifetime war with yourself first, then everyone and everything else.
At one point, you will reach epiphany, then you will spend the rest of your life trying to undo what they have done to you.
You try to undo you.